Weird Encounter with High Strung Mom at the Library
So I had this weird encounter with a single Mom at the local library. I’m browsing through books and a lady is watching me. I get self-conscious. Does she think I’m stealing books or something? It’s awkward. Then she approaches me and I smile nervously.

“Kirk, you don’t know me, but you have changed my life and my relationship with my son completely.”

I nod awkwardly. I still have never figured out what to say. “Yeah, I know, I’m amazing, aren’t I?” Haha. It’s just weird. But I know it means a lot to people to express this so I tell her that means a lot to me. I also know there’s emotion coming and that makes me nervous because I’m a guy.

“I never imagined life could be this way with my son. The constant yelling, fighting, all of the true nasty days have ended. With all the ideas from your CDs, we have made learning fun. And now we enjoy spending time together now.”

Crap. Now the tears come. I’m standing next to a crying lady in the public library, like I did something to hurt her. “So what has changed?”

“Well, my son is in the first grade and has a hard time with reading. So we made a reading fort and read by flashlight. He will practice reading to the dogs and cats. We actually make learning fun now!”

Ah good. We’re into the practical stuff now. So I give her a few more ideas to help her son with his anxiety. Have the teacher give him a specific job to do every morning. When you ask him to do something, remove yourself and give him space to do it without hovering over him. She nods and takes notes (which I love!!), but then I see the tears start again.

“I’m a little high strung by nature,” she begins. And inside I’m thinking, “No! Really?!” The truth is most of us are. I LOVE LOVE LOVE when people are honest about themselves.

“I’ve helped my son, but now I want to stop lecturing and worrying. I want to break these patterns of control, perfectionism and anxiety.” She began to explain that she’s a single Mom. I said, “I have an idea. I’ll mentor you as long as you don’t stalk me in the library again.” 🙂

I never give people my phone number unless they sign up for mentoring with me.  But this single Mom had made a financial and emotional investment already, and I knew we were on the verge of something life-changing.

This Mom, high strung and stalker lady as she is (kidding), is doing something monumental. She is literally changing who she is. She is breaking patterns that have been in her life for decades. Not only has she changed the relationship with her son, she is breaking this pattern in his life and his kids’ lives forever. That’s more important than good grades or good behavior. That is creating a new family tree.

Side note: I also know that the next time she begins to date or decides to marry, she will be whole and confident and attract a caring, selfless, guy to her. Because she’s going to be a different person. And that rocks!

Are YOU ready to change yourself? Ready to surrender, change the way you view your child, and have a new relationship like this Mom? Focus on changing yourself instead of your child and spouse! It’s amazing how much this works. And if you want me to mentor you, learn more here.

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You react when your kids push your buttons and just can’t seem to stop, even though you know you have to. You get on your kids constantly, lecturing and eventually yelling.  It merely creates more power struggles and strains your relationships.

Only YOU have the power to create a new family tree and break these patterns so your kids don’t grow up and struggle with the same issues.

Want to learn how to stop reacting? Click here to listen to a practical 9-minute podcast and a preview of one of the 30 action steps.

Want to control your emotions? Click here to listen to this short podcast: “Stop doing so much and get control of your emotions.”

You invest in yourself to finally stop the yelling, lecturing, and power struggles.
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You’ve struggled with this for years. It took me 22 therapy sessions and $3,350 to learn these steps. We’ve consolidated this and made it simple, practical, and easy to apply.  The regular price of this program is going to be $300. But during this SPECIAL SALE, you get a step-by-step guide to calm for the price of one trip to a therapist: only $150. PLUS you get an additional 9 hours of practical strategies and GET THE BAG FREE ($150 value).

30 Days To Calm: Stop Yelling, Lecturing, & Reacting (1 CD + 1 PDF Workbook + 45-page Q&A)

Kirk provides 30 specific, concrete strategies to:

  • Stop the lecturing and yelling for good to create a new family tree.
  • Stop reacting when your kids, spouse, and friends push your buttons so you are in control of yourself.
  • Break the old patterns that cause you to worry about your kids’ future and feel like you’re not a good enough parent.
  • Get control of your time instead of feeling rushed, on edge and anxious. No more drama. No more anxiety.
  • Deal with daily pressures of morning rush, traffic, homework, bossy parents, social media, over-scheduling your kids, and more.

You will learn how to control yourself…instead of controlling everyone else. Finally. Includes a downloadable Workbook and 30 action steps (one per day) to break those old patterns.

Bonus: Features a 45-page Q&A with answers to your toughest questions and strategies to overcome your toughest triggers.


Get 9 hours of practical strategies and answers to your 100 toughest questions. Listen alone, listen WITH your kids, or have them listen alone. You will learn dozens of very practical, concrete strategies to stop defiance, disrespect, yelling, sibling fights, power struggles over screen time and homework. Plus your kids listen to Casey’s Straight Talk For Kids and learn to control themselves.


Stop Power Struggles with Your Strong-Willed Child (2 CDs, 2 hours). Kirk will show you how to cultivate a deep, trusting relationship with a strong-willed child who:

  • Only wants to do things on his terms.
  • Doesn’t care about consequences or anything you care about.
  • Resists or shut downs when you try to talk to him.
  • Would rather suffer and do things the hard way than do what you ask.
  • Gets upset quickly over changes in plans.
  • Feels different than his siblings and classmates.
  • Gets the entire family revolving around his drama.

CD 2 Track 04: You can’t let strong-willed kids walk all over you. But tough discipline should always lead to a closer relationship. Listen how to do this even when your child is defiant.


Straight Talk For Kids (3 CDs, 3 hours)
Kids listen as a teenager (Casey) shows them how to deal with daily disappointment, anger, frustration, peer pressure, siblings, and homework.

  • Kids feel understood, confident, motivated, and purposeful.
  • Casey teaches kids how to communicate with parents respectfully to earn trust.
  • Casey gives dozens of practical tools to handle sibling fights, organizational skills, focus, and social skills.


Discipline that WordsDiscipline That Works: Get Your Kids to Listen the First Time (2 CDs, 2 hours)
Kirk will show you 25 ways to discipline without yelling to stop the fighting, lying, tantrums, whining, complaining and more. Learn to give directions ONE time… NO more repeating things!

  • Give directions one time. No more repeating yourself, yelling or bribing!
  • Stop lying, hitting, interrupting, tantrums, whining, and complaining.
  • Teach kids how to control themselves. A must have in every home.

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