Instead of hearing your child screaming AT YOU, hear your child screaming OUT TO YOU for help. Because most of the time, your child is looking at you and this is what they are really saying:
“I am so frustrated and angry and stressed right now…and I don’t know how to handle this or what to do…my whole world is out of control …it’s spinning and it’s scary…and I need you to be the immovable rock in my life who can give me some wisdom and tools to help me.”
And all too often, they look up at us and what do they see? The grown up, the adult out of control as well. And that’s why an upset child will often get even more combustible.
