Want your kids to open up to you more and be responsible for themselves? Try these two apologies.
(1) “I want to apologize to you. When you come and tell me something about your life, I tend to create too much drama and make it a bigger deal than it is. And I bet that makes you feel hesitant to share things with me. I apologize for making you feel that way.
“From now on, when you share something with me, I am just going to listen and ask questions, not lecture and interrogate you. Would that make you feel more comfortable sharing things with me?”
(2) “I want to apologize to you. Out of a good heart and good intentions, I think I have inadvertently sent the message that you aren’t capable of making good choices or being successful. The issue isn’t you—it’s my own anxiety and control issues. So from now on, I am going to stop lecturing and start modeling the right behavior for you. Because I do believe you can be wildly successful.”
Humility is a powerful tool.
We need help. We have a 15 year old son who is refusing to do school. He has been home schooled from the beginning. We have always had little struggles and big blow ups every once in a while. However, currently it is everyday. He does not want to listen to anything we say. He has had fits of anger/rage, which involves swearing and throwing items. It is difficult to put all of the details into this writing. I really need to talk to someone.
Hi Amanda,
I know this is really frustrating, especially when your son is capable and not living up to his potential. The key is to spark that internal motivation. We will be emailing you directly to provide personalized help. But always feel free to call us at 888-506-1871 or email Emily@CelebrateCalm.com. Thanks for caring so much. Kirk