Take 9 minutes and listen to this short podcast Kirk recorded with 2 HUGE IDEAS you must understand to stop the constant fights with siblings and screens in your home. Make this the summer you FINALLY stop the sibling fights and endless battles over screens.
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This is the summer you teach your kids to be responsible for themselves! Take off that striped uniform and stop being the referee. Here are a few of the more than 40 examples we address in this new Stop Sibling Fights program.
What do I do when my 11-yr-old blames his sister for everything?
He is probably jealous of the sibling who does everything well. So give him opportunities to use his gifts and talents so that he shines in front of others, feels confident, and has his place. Affirm his strengths.
But also talk to him like an adult. “You can be a victim of circumstances, blame others, and be miserable-I can’t help you with that. But I respect you enough to know you’re capable of being responsible for yourself. It’s YOUR issue. What can YOU do differently? I’m not interested in what your sister did. I want to know what you are going to do. And I’m here to give you tools.” Expect more and don’t baby him.
The kids are playing outside and something happens. They come running in with five different stories or versions. What do I do?
Send them back outside. “I am not listening to five different stories. Go back outside and you all work this out. Then come back to me with one story you can all agree on. If it takes three hours, so be it. I respect you all too much to solve your problems and micromanage you. If you want to act like little children, I’ll treat you like that and you can all go to bed at 6pm tonight. You can live with your drama, but I am not participating in it.”
When they come back with a general consensus, then you can problem solve with them. But take off that striped uniform–you are not the referee. Although you can feel free to blow the whistle loudly when they are getting loud!
When do I let the kids figure it out on their own?
As often as possible. When it’s inconvenient for you. When there is no bloodshed or just a little bit. When no one is in serious danger of physical or emotional harm. Provide clarity and make their options very clear. Give them tools to succeed. Give them the words and phrases to use. Then step back and applaud their progress or refine their approach. Same with homework and other childhood challenges.
“Kirk, on the drive to the beach yesterday, we had our kids listen to the siblings program. This morning, the kids were squabbling and I began to step in. Both kids looked at me and said, ‘Mom, we can handle this by ourselves.’ And sure enough they did. I was so proud of them and happy I got to relax!”
Good job, Mom! Remember to listen to the Stop Fights over Screens on the drive home and work on that next! Your kids ARE capable of more.
What happens when one child hits or annoys the other? What do you do when kids fight in the car? How do you handle physical aggression? What about when one child creates drama and takes away time from your other kids? We address these complex situations in detail in the NEW Stop Sibling Fights program. Listen WITH your kids this summer.
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It’s time to stop being the referee and stop these two major sources of stress in your home once and for all. Now you’ll know exactly how to do that. Just in time for Summer Break!
Stop Sibling Fights (2 CDs, 2 hours)
When kids bicker, hit, and whine, “That’s not fair” or “He’s looking at me!” it makes you want to pull your eyelashes out. What do you do when an older child picks on the younger one, or vice versa? How do you get teens to play with younger siblings? What do you do when it does get physical? How do you get kids to share without causing resentment? How do you survive car rides, stop bullying, and manage fights between kids when one has special needs?
- Stop being the referee so your kids can play together without you separating them.
- Stop the mean, hurtful, verbal attacks and physical fights that lead to tears.
- Get the provoking child to stop pushing buttons.
- Teach your reacting child self-respect and how to control himself.
Control Screens So They Don’t Control Your Family (2 CDs, 2 hours)
Is technology pitting you against your kids with endless power struggles over video games, TV, cell phones and social media? Do you feel pressure to give your toddler an iPad already? Are you afraid your child’s imagination, creativity, and social skills are being stunted by reliance on technology? Are your teens pulling away, afraid they will miss out if they are not online 24/7? Kirk and Casey will give you practical tools to:
- Stop power struggles over phones, video games, and tablets without arguments or tears.
- Motivate kids to relieve stress, interact socially, get outside, and build confidence without screens.
- Set appropriate limits for kids ages 2-22.
- Know what to do when schools require an iPad, but this distracts your child.
