When we try to force kids into a box, it causes power struggles and crushes spirits. Many strong-willed children desire ownership and like challenges. They are very purposeful. Strong-willed children often feel like everyone and everything is against them. They need us to be FOR them. Don’t put them in a box according to what is comfortable for you.
Strong-willed children won’t progress according to your timeline. Many are late bloomers. Some won’t be ready for college right away. Be patient and give them space to grow.
Strong-willed children respect authenticity. Live out your life with honesty and they will respect and emulate it. Apologize for lecturing or controlling too much. Ask your child to help you control yourself.
Strong-willed children like to learn by doing and failing. Step back so that your children can step up and be responsible for themselves.
Strong-willed children are purposeful. Kids who ask WHY all the time are often looking for context, ownership, and a larger purpose.
Strong-willed children like to challenge assumptions. Teach your child to disagree and argue respectfully. Children who learn how to express independent thoughts in the home are more likely to say no to peer pressure.
Strong-willed children like to DO their faith. Model and live your faith so your kids can experience it. Let them own their own faith. Service projects are helpful.
Above all, learn to ENJOY your strong-willed child.
