Q: Why won’t my kids be responsible for themselves?
A: Because they don’t have to. Because YOU always are.
Many of you, out of good hearts and good intentions, actually do WAY TOO MUCH as a parent. Yes, I really believe this. It’s actually working against you and achieving the opposite of what you want:
- You end micromanaging your kids, which sends the message that they aren’t capable of being responsible. They resist or shut down.
- You end up fixing things for your kids because you don’t want to see them experience pain or distress. But your strong-willed kids are “stove-touchers” who need to touch that hot stove–because that’s how they learn best.
So by fixing problems or doing things yourself for them (actually, you are doing that for YOURSELF, true?), you are actually preventing them from learning how to be responsible for themselves.
So this summer, are you ready to break a pattern that’s been in your family for generations through the martyr mother or controlling father? Then do this.
Resign from your job.
Give yourself a pink slip. From a job you may have carried your entire life. That causes your kids to resist you. And that causes you to feel continually frustrated. This is just one of the 30 steps we take in the 30 Days to Calm Program.
It is NOT my job to control how my kids and other people act.
It is NOT my job to control how my kids and other people think.
It is NOT my job to prove my point and lecture.
Want your kids to be responsible for themselves? Apologize and say this, “I apologize for trying to control your behavior. From now on, I am going to control my own behavior and trust you to make choices that affect your life.”
Your kids will not remember any lectures you give them. But they will remember how YOU reacted in every situation. You teach by doing. Want to take it further?
It is NOT my job to make my kids happy. It is NOT my job to control my kids’ moods and emotions. This is a HUGE trap for you. You try so hard to make your kids grateful and happy. And it only makes you and everyone else miserable! When you are having a bad day, do you want your spouse lecturing, “You just need to be grateful.” NO!
Your new job is to control yourself, model and live out what you believe and know is right, with integrity and humility. So resign from that burdensome job of trying to control your kids.
Tell your kids this, “It is not my job to fix you, make you happy, or make choices for you. I trust you to make choices and learn from them…because YOU are smart and capable.” THEN your kids will begin stepping up and being responsible for themselves…as you step back and control yourself. Ready to be free?
The quickest way to change your child’s or spouse’s behavior is to change and control your own. Are you ready?
YOUR strong-willed child will NOT change until you change. Are you ready to resign? Focus on changing yourself instead of your child and spouse? If you are, then I will give you THE BAG ($150 value) FREE so you can learn how to get your kids to listen the first time, teach your kids how to calm down, and motivate them…without lecturing or yelling. But you have to promise that you’ll work on yourself first. No cheating.
I promise all of your relationships with change–when you change. Ready to do it? We’ve never given away this much stuff for FREE!
Final Week: Get THE BAG FREE ($150 value). Only 17 sets remaining.
Want to finally stop the yelling and lecturing? Get control of yourself with our 30 Days to Calm Program. And we’ll show you how to calm your kids for FREE.
You react when your kids push your buttons and just can’t seem to stop, even though you know you have to. You get on your kids constantly, lecturing and eventually yelling. It merely creates more power struggles and strains your relationships.
Only YOU have the power to create a new family tree and break these patterns so your kids don’t grow up and struggle with the same issues.
Want to learn how to stop reacting? Click here to listen to a practical 9-minute podcast and a preview of one of the 30 action steps.
Audio PlayerWant to control your emotions? Click here to listen to this short podcast: “Stop doing so much and get control of your emotions.”
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You invest in yourself to finally stop the yelling, lecturing, and power struggles. WE GIVE YOU THE BAG ($150 value) FREE. These are the same CDs that have changed over a hundred thousand families. FREE this week. Click here to learn more about The Bag. See complete descriptions and listen to audio samples below.
You’ve struggled with this for years. It took me 22 therapy sessions and $3,350 to learn these steps. We’ve consolidated this and made it simple, practical, and easy to apply. The regular price of this program is going to be $300. But during this SPECIAL SALE, you get a step-by-step guide to calm for the price of one trip to a therapist: only $150. PLUS you get an additional 9 hours of practical strategies and GET THE BAG FREE ($150 value).
30 Days To Calm: Stop Yelling, Lecturing, & Reacting (1 CD + 1 PDF Workbook + 45-page Q&A)
Kirk provides 30 specific, concrete strategies to:
- Stop the lecturing and yelling for good to create a new family tree.
- Stop reacting when your kids, spouse, and friends push your buttons so you are in control of yourself.
- Break the old patterns that cause you to worry about your kids’ future and feel like you’re not a good enough parent.
- Get control of your time instead of feeling rushed, on edge and anxious. No more drama. No more anxiety.
- Deal with daily pressures of morning rush, traffic, homework, bossy parents, social media, over-scheduling your kids, and more.
You will learn how to control yourself…instead of controlling everyone else. Finally. Includes a downloadable Workbook and 30 action steps (one per day) to break those old patterns.
Bonus: Features a 45-page Q&A with answers to your toughest questions and strategies to overcome your toughest triggers.
THIS WEEK ONLY: GET THE BAG FREE WITH YOUR PURCHASE OF 30 Days to Calm!
Get 9 hours of practical strategies and answers to your 100 toughest questions. Listen alone, listen WITH your kids, or have them listen alone. You will learn dozens of very practical, concrete strategies to stop defiance, disrespect, yelling, sibling fights, power struggles over screen time and homework. Plus your kids listen to Casey’s Straight Talk For Kids and learn to control themselves.
Stop Power Struggles with Your Strong-Willed Child (2 CDs, 2 hours). Kirk will show you how to cultivate a deep, trusting relationship with a strong-willed child who:
- Only wants to do things on his terms.
- Doesn’t care about consequences or anything you care about.
- Resists or shut downs when you try to talk to him.
- Would rather suffer and do things the hard way than do what you ask.
- Gets upset quickly over changes in plans.
- Feels different than his siblings and classmates.
- Gets the entire family revolving around his drama.
CD 2 Track 04: You can’t let strong-willed kids walk all over you. But tough discipline should always lead to a closer relationship. Listen how to do this even when your child is defiant.
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Straight Talk For Kids (3 CDs, 3 hours)
Kids listen as a teenager (Casey) shows them how to deal with daily disappointment, anger, frustration, peer pressure, siblings, and homework.
- Kids feel understood, confident, motivated, and purposeful.
- Casey teaches kids how to communicate with parents respectfully to earn trust.
- Casey gives dozens of practical tools to handle sibling fights, organizational skills, focus, and social skills.
Discipline That Works: Get Your Kids to Listen the First Time (2 CDs, 2 hours)
Kirk will show you 25 ways to discipline without yelling to stop the fighting, lying, tantrums, whining, complaining and more. Learn to give directions ONE time… NO more repeating things!
- Give directions one time. No more repeating yourself, yelling or bribing!
- Stop lying, hitting, interrupting, tantrums, whining, and complaining.
- Teach kids how to control themselves. A must have in every home.
Listen to a sample track:
Audio PlayerIf you have any questions or need help selecting the best CD/DVD sets for your family, please call us at 888-506-1871 or email Casey@CelebrateCalm.com. And yes, you will actually speak with us!
