It is so tempting to think that if you are struggling in your marriage and family life, that you are a failure or “messed up” as one Mom wrote recently. But that’s not true. Relationships are difficult. They are supposed to be difficult. And that’s what gives them meaning.
I have been so humbled and inspired by the stories that I am reading as I prepare for the Relationship Rescue and Calm BootCamp that begin at the end of October. These are stories of men and women who have survived circumstances that would have caused many to give up–parents were alcoholics, they were abused, they’ve survived cancer and other sickness, they have children with multiple disabilities.
So this is my message to the families who are humbling themselves and asking for help with relationships that are in disarray. Do not hang your head low, do not feel like a failure, do not think you’re a bad person. No way. The fact is you are courageous. You are standing up and saying, “I need some tools. I need to learn new skills. I have the courage to own my weaknesses and mistakes, admit that I need help, and take action to change my future. My past does not determine my future. I am going to become a brand new person. I refuse to give up, I refuse to just let things spiral out of control, I refuse to just ignore my issues and hope they go away.”
THIS is the voice of a courageous person. And you have my admiration and commitment to walk through every painful step with you…because you have a great future ahead of you. Thank you for being an inspiration.