Bring friends to the following Workshops.  Kirk and Casey will be sharing practical, concrete strategies to: Eliminate defiance, disrespect, and power struggles (even with teens). Stop sibling fights, tattling and “That’s not fair!” Break generational patterns of yelling, controlling and perfectionism. Get kids to take responsibility for their attitudes, choices and work. Want a sneak… Continue Reading ›

What do you wish your spouse knew about how you feel inside? What do you wish you could say without your spouse becoming defensive, so that he/she understood you? This is the process we’re going through with couples as we prepare for the Calm Couples™ Marriage Challenge. I would like your feedback. Do not reply… Continue Reading ›

Ugh. I know you don’t even want to deal with this now because you are exhausted, but you must. It only gets more difficult the longer you wait. It isn’t going away. Do any of these situations describe yours? – Your husband hasn’t been engaged emotionally. You didn’t want to rock the boat so you… Continue Reading ›

Need help with an unmotivated child? Want to give a gift that lasts forever? Do you think your challenging child (or spouse!) would remember a gift like the letter below? Can you bring yourself to write something like this? It can change lives. And it’s a great tradition for Hanukkah, Christmas or New Year’s Day.… Continue Reading ›

Today, I change my family tree. I identify those patterns passed down through parents and grandparents–anxiety, worry, meddling, lecturing, yelling, fear and intimidation, abuse. I give my children a gift that will reach through generations. Instead of trying to change my kids, spouse, friends or boss, I change myself. I learn to control myself, my… Continue Reading ›

Take the Confident Woman Challenge (Note: Our spring conference filled more quickly than we thought. You can participate from the convenience of your own home now.) There is a quiet epidemic plaguing women in our society. It is simmering under the surface, filled with pain, despair and quiet desperation. Even resentment and anger. An entire… Continue Reading ›

Calm is not a doormat. We don’t let kids “get away” with anything. Quite to the contrary. When you are in control of yourself, you can see clearly and discipline effectively. When you are yelling and upset, your kids are actually in control of you. And that never works well. Here’s a tough discipline tool.… Continue Reading ›

I just wanted to say a big thank you!! My husband and I agonized over spending the money on the CDs.  We are so glad we did.  I started listening yesterday in the car.  The first cd was Calm 24/7.  Mornings are particularly stressful.  My preschooler is very emotional as am I.  We often clash… Continue Reading ›

I refuse to allow others to determine my mood, attitude and actions. If a person or circumstance causes me to react, they have power over me. I refuse to give power over my joy and peace to my kids’ behavior, my spouse’s reaction, what others think, traffic, finances, co-workers. I control one thing in life:… Continue Reading ›