I refuse to change my child to make others more comfortable or alleviate my own embarrassment. I love his creativity, intensity, imagination and wit. I prefer his strong will, strong opinions and strong sense of self. His behavior isn’t perfect, but his heart is golden. He is not a follower; he is a leader. I refuse to allow other people’s opinions to determine how I view my child. I celebrate my child’s flaws and gifts.
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As a mother of 3 sons who certainly all had a lot of energy when they were younger, I appreciate the positive spin. It was easy back then to worry about what others thought since at times all it took was a “look” from someone who didn’t know them and were quick to judge. Over the years I have learned to celebrate where they are today as teenagers and to not worry about those who would choose to judge or question their choices or judge my parenting. I have learned that God will use all of the good experiences and the trials as well to grow them into who they need to be, not who I or anyone else would want them to be. It has been a tough road but I am stronger for it and my boys are very strong as well. I hope and pray that more people, especially those in authority positions over children, will learn to accept more and judge less.
Love it! My son has ADHD, probably Dyslexia, and there may be other issues, but he is AWESOME! naturally we have helped him do much better, and I have always felt him being judged! By neighbors, of course they have perfect kids, and teachers. Well, I have learned to stand up and be proud, and support him through his challenges. I have high expectations of his teachers, and any of the special ed instructors who work with him. He is helped in his accountability as well, and this year is by far the best. 4th grade and finally have a school and team willing to work together. Thanks for posting!
THanks for posting. Seems i dont spend enough time enjoying my son. He is so warm hearted, witty and bright. he loves his chruch youth group. i forget thats rare in an (almost) 15 year old young man. He will go places. this site is helpful for my focus.
I’m a 35 year old adult with medicated (thank goodness) ADD, and it is nothing to celebrate. I have cerebral palsy, too and that’s nothing to celeberate either. Both are conditions to adapt to and cope with. My ADD has made it very difficult to make friends or keep jobs. Is there somewhere I can return this “gift”?
I think it is a great challenge and when faced with a great challenge you need to educate yourself and those near and dear to you as well for positive support.
Since I have a Child with O.D.D. as well as A.D.H.D. I have found that each day is differant and each night is differant… we have to treat each day as a gift and accept the child and Help them to understand and control their challenges. I think that educating yourself and those near and dear is the best tool we can use… Knowledge IS Power and if you use it to your advantage any challenge can be tackled constructively.
I love my 3 sons and I have always raised my kids to be independent, with a voice, an opinion, and a desire to make choices and decide what consequences they so choose. So far they have been pretty darn good kids. Now my oldest is 21 sencond is 19 and third is 8… Each differant and each a strong willed independant gentleman with good heart. I’m sure it is all the High Fives and the praising that Kept them going. I have learned that positive reinforcement is the best… I believe it is. God knew what He was doing and if you ask Him He will tell ya.
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