Today, I change my family tree. I identify those patterns passed down through parents and grandparents–anxiety, worry, meddling, lecturing, yelling, fear and intimidation, abuse. I give my children a gift that will reach through generations. Instead of trying to change my kids, spouse, friends or boss, I change myself. I learn to control myself, my emotions, my compulsions.

I become that calm, confident, immovable rock my kids can count on. I show them how to control themselves by first controlling myself. This is hard work, but I can do it. And in doing so, I will have changed my family tree and broken patterns for generations to come.