ADHD Help

You know that sister-in-law with the perfect kids who always makes snide comments like, “Your son sure is…energetic”? Here’s how I want you to respond: “I love Jacob’s energy. He has the initiative, creativity, imagination, wit and problem-solving ability of six people. You should hear his ideas and plans. And you better be nice to him, because one day your kids are going to be working for him!”

That’s the attitude we want here. We’re going to show you why our kids are the leaders of tomorrow. Darn right we’re going to celebrate. Hang out with me here, but only if you’re willing to be challenged.

When kids lie or say, “I hate myself!” and “I’m so stupid!”

Few words strike fear in your heart like your kids saying, “I hate myself!” and “I’m so stupid” or lying blatantly. Your anxiety kicks in–how can he feel that way after all we’ve done for him, have I done something wrong, is he destined to be unhappy? Instead of lecturing or overreacting, we stay connected,… Continue Reading ›

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Posted on February 18, 2012 by Kirk Martin

I refuse to change my child…

I refuse to change my child to make others more comfortable or alleviate my own embarrassment. I love his creativity, intensity, imagination and wit. I prefer his strong will, strong opinions and strong sense of self. His behavior isn’t perfect, but his heart is golden. He is not a follower; he is a leader. I… Continue Reading ›

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Posted on September 28, 2011 by Kirk Martin

Social skills: not invited to birthday parties?

Many of our kids struggle with social skills because of asynchronous development. They often relate better to adults, older and younger children, even animals–but struggle to connect with their peers. Many kids suffer the pain of being excluded from birthday parties. A Mom sent me this question yesterday. “A friend told me that her daughter… Continue Reading ›

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Posted on October 30, 2011 by Kirk Martin

Stop relatives from doing this–it destroys kids.

I saw a boy get destroyed today and no one noticed.At a friend’s Christmas party, families streamed in and a familiar scene took shape. Uncles, aunts and grandparents began to echo the dangerous lie that good children have good grades and good behavior. “Look how smart he is, dear. He made the honor roll again!… Continue Reading ›

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Posted on December 19, 2011 by Kirk Martin

Chores aren’t that important?

There are mythologies we like to create around parenting. If you just parent the right way, your kids will be well-behaved. If you teach kids to do chores when they are little, they will grow up to be responsible. If kids study hard and go to college, they will be able to get a job.… Continue Reading ›

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Posted on October 24, 2011 by Kirk Martin

My view on medication

Medication can be an effective tool to help your child. Some children absolutely need medication. I am against physicians using medication as a first resort or as a magic pill in isolation without using other tools. I don’t like when teachers expect the child to change, without changing the way they teach the child. I… Continue Reading ›

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Posted on October 12, 2011 by Kirk Martin

More help with social skills

Q: My teenage boys struggle with making friends. Any tips? One of the best ways to form friendships is by working on a project together with other kids, especially if they share a common passion or interest. One of my favorite strategies is asking teachers to pair your child with another student who shares similar… Continue Reading ›

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Posted on October 10, 2011 by Kirk Martin

Your son can’t have an IEP because he’s gifted.

IEP Myth: “Your child doesn’t qualify for an IEP because he is in the Gifted & Talented program.” Do not believe this myth! It will keep you from getting your child the help he needs and deserves in school. A common tactic is to “lump and dump” children in with others to disqualify them from… Continue Reading ›

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Posted on October 4, 2011 by Kirk Martin

Yes, I am angry.

There is some anger in today’s newsletter. We discuss a decision made by a school that I term “idiotic.” Perhaps I should have used a different term. Like short-sighted, destructive, stupid, ignorant, cowardly. You tell me. I’m tired of seeing kids’  confidence shot while supposed grown-ups refuse to problem solve or give kids tools to… Continue Reading ›

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Posted on October 4, 2011 by Kirk Martin

Homework anxiety–3 steps

A Mom who struggles with anxiety shared this story. I bet you can use the same three steps in your life. “I picked something up yesterday from the Calm 24/7 CDs.  When stuck in traffic with anxiety, you said you do three things…give thanks, put yourself in the other driver’s place, and ask what’s the… Continue Reading ›

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Posted on September 28, 2011 by Kirk Martin

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