30 Days to Break Generational Patterns
Bonus: Features 30 action steps (one per day) that you can listen to as daily reminders on your Smartphone, iPad or computer. Do this so your kids don’t struggle with the same issues as adults.
Q: Why should I do this program?
You get on your kids constantly, lecturing and eventually yelling. You do too much for everyone else, but it’s never good enough. Everything has to be just so. You worry too much and struggle with guilt, never feeling like you’re doing a good enough job as a Mom. It’s part of your family tree.
You probably inherited this from your parents or grandparents. It’s not your kids’ or spouse’s issue. It’s your issue. And that’s good news because that means YOU have the power to create a new family tree. This is a gift to your kids. You get to be the pioneer who breaks these negative generational patterns so that your kids don’t grow up and struggle with the same issues.
Q: Why is it more expensive than your other CDs?
I am not discounting this program as much for one simple reason. If you really want to break these generational patterns, you’re going to have to be committed and work extremely hard. I don’t want people investing in this program until they are ready to invest in themselves enough to do it right. If you follow the directions, you will change in ways you cannot imagine. Being calm and free of the lecturing, worrying, guilt and yelling will become ingrained in your heart and brain. It will become second nature. And the generational pattern will be broken.
You’ve tried on your own to get control of your anxiety, but you’ve never gotten to the root of it. It’s controlling you, deep inside. So you try to control everyone else’s behavior, emotions, happiness and opinions—at first by explaining, then lecturing, then yelling. Instead of gratitude, you get power struggles. And you end up falling back into the old traps, which creates a vicious cycle of guilt and hopelessness. Nothing can please you. Does it hurt when you constantly get on your kids…when it’s really about your own anxiety?
Here is what you get with this program:
- CD #1: We get to the root of your anxiety and give you 20 specific, practical strategies to conquer it.
- CD #2: You get the 30-Day Challenge. Features 30 action steps you listen to as daily reminders on your smartphone, iPad or computer.
- Written Workbook, Journal & 30-Day Challenge so you can take notes and create an action plan (downloadable).
- Written answers and strategies to 100 of the toughest situations that cause you anxiety (downloadable).
- Access to ask Kirk specific questions about your situation.
Does this describe you or your spouse:
- When your kids push your buttons, you react. Almost every time. You just can’t stop.
- You get on your kids because they don’t do things “the right way,” which is “your way.”
- You lecture your child constantly, even when you see the harm it is doing. You just can’t stop. It always kicks back in.
- You create or participate in drama. There’s always an emergency or something that needs your immediate attention.
- First you ask nicely, and then when your child doesn’t respond appropriately, you begin lecturing and finally yelling.
- When things aren’t just so (kitchen, kids’ bedrooms, their clothes, little things), it irritates you and puts you on edge. You find yourself getting on them about their clothes, bedrooms, etc. constantly. It creates power struggles.
- When your child is struggling during homework, you end up saying, “If you would just focus, you would be done in 45 minutes instead of it taking three hours.” You are anxious that if he doesn’t get his homework done, you’ll be a bad parent, he won’t do well in school and won’t be successful in life. So you put more pressure on. It creates a power struggle.
- You view authority figures or God as this unrelenting taskmaster who is never happy with you. You’re always trying harder, but can’t quite please him. You believe that God punishes you routinely, so you find yourself punishing your kids more than teaching them. They can’t really please you, either.
- You are afraid your kids are going to be “bad kids” if you are not on them all the time. You dish out harsh punishments that are out of proportion. That’s your anxiety.
- You don’t see your child living up to his potential. You’re afraid he won’t be successful, you wonder who is going to marry him or hire him! So you bring out the lectures, you ride him constantly. He either pushes back or shuts down.
- You get anxious when you go places. You either find yourself running late or getting irritated when your kids dawdle. You bark orders and tell the kids to, “Move! Move! Move!” but they end up going more slowly.
- You feel compelled to change people’s opinions or prove that you are right. Sometimes it hurts relationships because you can’t just let it go and realize that person has a different opinion than you.
- You seek to find relief from this anxiety by escaping and it’s turning into an addiction. You have a few drinks or more at night, look at porn, gamble, seek some new scheme to make money. Or maybe you disappear into your work, play video games, do drugs or constantly buy things or fix up your house.
- You feel like you’re never a good enough Mom. It kind of hangs over you constantly. You could always be doing more or doing something better. You second guess yourself constantly.
- You feel compelled to always be busy. There’s always something else to do. You find yourself “rushing” a lot. In some ways, you like that adrenaline rush.
- You feel judged by your parents. After all, if you were a better parent, your kids wouldn’t behave this way. It hurts inside.
- You allow your kids to decorate the Christmas tree, but can’t wait for them to go to bed so you can “fix it.” That’s perfectionism.
- You kind of follow your kids around, picking up their messes, making adjustments, fixing the way they loaded the dishwasher, always showing or “teaching” (i.e. lecturing) them about a better way.
- You routinely tell your kids, “If you would just apply yourself…” and it causes them to shut down. They can’t satisfy your anxiety.
Conquering your anxiety means YOU are in control of your life and emotions. You are purposeful, focused and have the right priorities.
Anxiety causes the exact opposite response you want from your kids:
- When you say, “Move, move, get to the car…” instead of running more quickly, your kids move more slowly. Why? Because they know when you are in that anxious mode, nothing they do will please you.
- When you lecture your kids constantly, it backfires. They ignore you and discount what you say. The more words you use, the less valuable they become.
- When you get on your kids about every little thing, they don’t thank you for being so conscientious! They fight you. But the truth is that YOU create so many power struggles over issues that don’t matter. All because of your own anxiety.
Kirk will show you how to:
- Stop the lecturing and yelling once and for all—it destroys your kids’ confidence, causes power struggles and never works.
- Break the patterns that make you feel rushed, angry, and on edge. Say no to unnecessary drama that drains you.
- Finally stop controlling what other people do, think or say. Stop being responsible for everyone’s happiness and opinions.
- Be free from guilt, worry and perfectionism over your kids’ future and your job as a parent.
You have said, “I wish I could tattoo this message on my brain.” THIS is how we get this message internalized so it becomes part of who you are, second nature. It’s not about just developing new habits—it’s about becoming a new person, breaking old patterns and creating a new family tree.
Carry Kirk’s daily messages with you on your iPhone, iPad and SmartPhone. Do this over the summer so you’re ready for the stress of the new school year!
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